Being Lonely in Motherhood is Normal

Blissdom 2013(Sean, Me, Stephanie, Nicole- Blissdom 2013)


I’m a mother.

I’m a wife, a therapist to my autistic son, a cook, a taxi driver, a wiper of noses.

I cook and clean the spilled messes.  I’m a rule maker and a referee of fights and arguments.

I’m a mother, which makes me all of those things.

They are hard things.  Sometimes heartbreaking things.

But good comes, it eventually comes.

It comes in hugs and kisses and lots of pictures colors wildly and put on my fridge.

It also happens to make me lonely.

It takes so much from my soul that I feel as though I have nothing to give, nothing is left of me.

So when I am down, when I’m rock bottom after a day of very hard mothering, I reach out.

I have to.  I have to speak to God, I have to reach out to a friend and tell them I’m in the dark today.

I’m lonely.  I’m in the dark alone and really need a friend.

I know all mothers feel this way at some point.  It’s normal to feel lonely in motherhood.

I know that is why God gave us girlfriends.

To help us connect.

To help us lean on each others shoulders.

Because God doesn’t want us mothers to walk the earth alone….He was us to walk hand in hand.


I’m linking up with Lisa Jo:

Five Minute Friday


  1. Yes, we mothers can live a lonely life. I can’t tell you how rewarding it is once your little ones are grown and you step back to admire who they have become. Yet that loneliness takes a whole new level. I don’t know how women without Christ can do it.

    Well written
    Miss Mindy recently posted..Lonely 5 Minute FridayMy Profile

  2. I remember when my kids were little. I worked full time (still do). Being away from them was hard. And I felt I had no one to talk to as lots of my friends were stay-at-home moms. So thankful that I always had God to turn to.
    Barbie recently posted..Five Minute Friday: LonelyMy Profile

  3. This was so honest and so true. I have just recently started reaching out and it’s made all the difference in the world. I really enjoyed this post.
    Karin Deaver recently posted..Five Minute Friday: LonelyMy Profile

  4. You are so right, Leigh. We have so much, but a critical aspect to our lives is community. However, it does need to be authentic community (something I wrote about in my FMF post). Blessings.

  5. I am right there with ya girl! It’s so funny, but when you’re pregnant, no one says, “Oh that kid is going to make you so lonely.” I mean, who would want to hear that? You’d be the Debbie Downer of the day! However, I wish I had been more prepared for the loneliness. Thanks for sharing!

  6. We are soooooo in this together…life is so much better together……You speak such wise, kind and heartfelt words.
    Fiona recently posted..Five Minute Friday: LonelyMy Profile

  7. So glad I stopped by from FMF, Leigh. You made me pause and appreciate those friends I can reach out to on dark days because we all have them. Thank you for writing. Your offering to your children as a mother is enormous. God bless you!
    Elizabeth P recently posted..Lonely: Five Minute FridayMy Profile

  8. I’m so glad you have girlfriends to keep you sane! Anyone caring for someone else, whether it’s a child, a child with special needs, a parent or a spouse needs to remember to take care of themselves first–or they will have nothing left to give the ones they care for.
    Anita Ojeda recently posted..Five-Minute Friday: LonelyMy Profile

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